Politics in the Home

I have fond memories of my childhood. Living in a home where I was loved and cared for by great parents was a wonderful blessing. I had a roof over my head, a warm bed to sleep on, and all my needs taken care of.

Some of my earliest memories are of my mother rocking me to sleep in the rickety rocking chair while singing “You Are My Sunshine” or “A Little Birdie in the Apple Tree”. I remember her rubbing my legs at night when I had growing pains and my bones ached.

All of these positive memories perhaps lead to the sense of betrayal I had when my mother refused to tell me who she was voting for. In the earliest election I can remember, probably for George Bush Sr. she straight up refused to tell me her vote. At first I laughed, thinking she was joking. When she persisted in not wanting to tell me, I felt somewhat slighted, and then a little hurt. Why wouldn’t my mother, who loved me, and sang to me, and comforted me in the middle of the night when I was in pain – why wouldn’t she tell me who she was voting for?

I think part of me felt if she couldn’t confide in me to tell me who she was voting for, then she must not love me and trust me as much as I thought. It might be twisted, but that’s how my mind and heart perceived things.

Imagine my surprise when I came home last night and my wife said to me, “I decided that I wasn’t going to tell you who I voted for?” Oy vey! I’ll leave out my reaction and let you readers guess how I dealt with it, but this leads to a question. Do you tell your spouse who you are voting for? Did your parents refuse to tell you their vote?




  • Ben says:

    Katie, I think it is strange to. I guess I'm just the type of person that people don't want to share their opinions with!

  • Katie says:

    Thanks again for stopping by my blog, Ben!<br /><br />My parents never withheld who they were voting for from us. Nor did they ever particularly push us to vote one way or another (though they certainly still let us know how they feel about issues / candidates). Politics has always been an open subject in my family, so I find it strange that it would be anything but in other households!<br /><br

  • Ben says:

    Julia, thanks for the comment. I understand not wanting to share with many people, but withholding that info from a spouse? That seems a little weird to me, but I&#39;m weird so I can tell which way is up!

    • Ben,<br /><br />For me it comes down to two issues, at least with a spouse. I am not registered with a party. Oregon allows unaffiliated voters, and so while I have worked on campaigns for Republicans and Democrats, I tend to vote for people I trust. If my husband isn&#39;t paying enough attention to know where my time and energy are going, then there are probably big problems in our relationship

    • Ben says:

      All great thoughts! I think in my case my mother was just a very private person. As for my wife, she was worried how I would react when I learned she was voting for someone I couldn&#39;t ever vote for, no matter how hard I tried to be open-minded about it.

    • I would say that you are lucky to have a marriage that supports loving relationships, without needing to be carbon copies of each other politically or spiritually. Individually and a couple you will be stronger for learning to live with, and love, someone who doesn&#39;t see the world the same way. Being able to do that means that you will have way more ideas when you hit a completely unexpected

  • I always knew that my parents split there vote on pretty much every national election. I very rarely tell anyone who I will/have voted for, this election was unusual because I shared it publicly. I think it is something that I choose on a case by case basis.

  • Ben says:

    Ammon, you already learned that years ago.

  • Ammon says:

    Moral of the story; Ben cannot be trusted.

  • Ben says:

    I have no problem with people voting for someone as long as they have sound reasons. If their reasoning is off, then yes I probably wouldn&#39;t be pleased. Just glad this election is over with.

  • Misti Lee says:

    I wouldn&#39;t want to tell you either since I am sure you weren&#39;t pleased that she voted for anyone since it wasn&#39;t Ron Paul! 🙂 I am proud of her for voting.

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